UNGLUED

As I mentioned in a previous post, I'm doing a Bible study called 'Unglued' by Lysa Terkheurst. I have realized in the study that my unglued moments are always with my daughter Kiya. It's when I have just had enough. It's not usually after one day of disrespect, but after several in a row or on a day that I'm just exhausted. I don't usually just yell at her but I tend to have less patience. There have been some days that I yell and I feel horrible. What I realized last week is that my unglued moments are almost NEVER with my husband. We might have a little spat but it's usually over nothing and we don't yell at each other. We never have. It makes me ashamed that I'd yell at my daughter but not him. I'm proud to say that I don't have those moments where I just lose control with him and I hope he appreciates it. Now to just never yell at her and I'll be good to go. :) With that being said.....a confession is below!!

This has been on my heart and mind for a few days now. I feel such guilt and embarrassment! I have never been one to just go off on someone especially not a random stranger. However, the other day while swimming with some friends, these children kept splashing us. You may think, yeah, you're in a public pool, that will happen. Yes. That is true. Here's how it started. My friend and I are trying to help our 5 yr old daughters how to swim. This pool is huge and these kids decided to canon ball right beside us in the pool. One child might not have been old enough to know to be courteous to other people but the others were definitely old enough, pre-teens I'm guessing. So, the first couple of times, it was annoying because not only was the pool freezing but it's just rude. Yes, we are in a pool but if I wanted my face, head, eyes etc soaked, I would have dunked myself. We turned to look at them the first two times but after that, I had just had enough !!! I turned around and splashed them back. Real mature, huh? I still can't believe I did it. Either way, it didn't seem to bother them which was okay with me. I think they got the hint though. So a moment later, their father came up to me and said "I saw you get aggressive with my children. You are in a public pool and you're going to get splashed." First off, I did not get AGGRESSIVE with his children. I splashed them with water. When he said that to me, I just had to defend myself. I told him (or tried to) that they had done it several times and I was tired of it. He said that he was watching them the whole time. My response to that was something to this effect...."any normal parent, would have told them to be courteous to other people around them and watch where they are splashing". He said that he was standing up for them and wouldn't I do the same? I said of course I would and I was. They weren't just splashing us, they were splashing our children. My whole point was not that I was mad for being splashed but instead that he saw them doing it and didn't care. I'm sorry but if my child was splashing complete strangers (whether on purpose or not), have some manners and teach them to look around them and be courteous. That's just common sense and being a good parent. I eventually had to tell him that I was done talking to him because he was just sitting there attacking me and not listening. I really did feel bad later on and very immature for reacting that way. I felt attacked by him and didn't appreciate it at all. Later on, he told them...'Stay away from those ladies. They are delicate.' I wanted to say something but I didn't. Will power!! :) I will add this though. About 30 minutes later, his child jumped in and splashed him in the face. What do you think he did? He turned around and splashed them back, right in their face. I think he just wanted something to complain about. Oh well. What's done is done. I sat there that whole time thinking I should go apologize but I just didn't do it.

Well, there's my unglued moment. Embarrassed that I acted that way and glad that God forgives!! I hope that guy forgave me to, even though I didn't apologize.

Proverbs 15:1
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.