THINGS TO DO:
- tell her she's beautiful...'hot', 'sexy', etc are flattering but they aren't the same as 'beautiful'
- touch her...in a loving way (hand on her back, move her hair out of her face, hold her hand, etc)
- compliment her skills as a mother
- tell her she's doing a great job
- tell her you love her (other than when getting off the phone or leaving the house)
- grab her and kiss her for no reason (feel free to do a little dip too) She'll love it!
- open and close her car door for her. Nothing like a gentleman. It makes us feel special.
- do one of her 'chores' without being asked
- buy her flowers for no reason at all
- have her join in on your home projects whether she's good at it or not
- take her out on a date
- offer to keep the kids and tell her to go get a manicure/pedicure, massage, facial (whatever she likes)
- if you have children, help her with them (bathing, bedtime, diaper changing, etc)
- cook dinner once a week for her...AND clean up the mess!
- PRAY TOGETHER!
THINGS NOT TO DO:
- Don't ask why the laundry isn't done....or anything else for that matter.
- Don't make her mad and then expect to 'get some'. You know what I mean.
- Don't tell her you want to go somewhere and expect her to be ready to walk out the door in 5 minutes.
- Don't complain about her cooking skills or food choice...unless you want to start cooking for her.
- Don't make her feel stupid or not good enough.
- Do not degrade her, hit her, scream at her, etc.
- There are probably a million more things not to do but I'm going blank at the moment.
I hope these things help you out a little. We don't expect to get these treatments all the time (especially if it's new for you) but it sure makes us feel loved when you do. To me, these 'TO DO' items are romantic. That's what us women long for...romance. Men can just want sex immediately. Women need to feel loved to get in the mood. So if you ever wonder why your wife isn't just 'ready to go' like you are, maybe the romance is missing. Don't expect to be romantic 5 minutes before. Make it an all day thing. :)
Ephesians 5:25-29
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church
