As I mentioned in a previous post, I'm doing a Bible study called 'Unglued' by Lysa Terkheurst. I have realized in the study that my unglued moments are always with my daughter Kiya. It's when I have just had enough. It's not usually after one day of disrespect, but after several in a row or on a day that I'm just exhausted. I don't usually just yell at her but I tend to have less patience. There have been some days that I yell and I feel horrible. What I realized last week is that my unglued moments are almost NEVER with my husband. We might have a little spat but it's usually over nothing and we don't yell at each other. We never have. It makes me ashamed that I'd yell at my daughter but not him. I'm proud to say that I don't have those moments where I just lose control with him and I hope he appreciates it. Now to just never yell at her and I'll be good to go. :) With that being said.....a confession is below!!
This has been on my heart and mind for a few days now. I feel such guilt and embarrassment! I have never been one to just go off on someone especially not a random stranger. However, the other day while swimming with some friends, these children kept splashing us. You may think, yeah, you're in a public pool, that will happen. Yes. That is true. Here's how it started. My friend and I are trying to help our 5 yr old daughters how to swim. This pool is huge and these kids decided to canon ball right beside us in the pool. One child might not have been old enough to know to be courteous to other people but the others were definitely old enough, pre-teens I'm guessing. So, the first couple of times, it was annoying because not only was the pool freezing but it's just rude. Yes, we are in a pool but if I wanted my face, head, eyes etc soaked, I would have dunked myself. We turned to look at them the first two times but after that, I had just had enough !!! I turned around and splashed them back. Real mature, huh? I still can't believe I did it. Either way, it didn't seem to bother them which was okay with me. I think they got the hint though. So a moment later, their father came up to me and said "I saw you get aggressive with my children. You are in a public pool and you're going to get splashed." First off, I did not get AGGRESSIVE with his children. I splashed them with water. When he said that to me, I just had to defend myself. I told him (or tried to) that they had done it several times and I was tired of it. He said that he was watching them the whole time. My response to that was something to this effect...."any normal parent, would have told them to be courteous to other people around them and watch where they are splashing". He said that he was standing up for them and wouldn't I do the same? I said of course I would and I was. They weren't just splashing us, they were splashing our children. My whole point was not that I was mad for being splashed but instead that he saw them doing it and didn't care. I'm sorry but if my child was splashing complete strangers (whether on purpose or not), have some manners and teach them to look around them and be courteous. That's just common sense and being a good parent. I eventually had to tell him that I was done talking to him because he was just sitting there attacking me and not listening. I really did feel bad later on and very immature for reacting that way. I felt attacked by him and didn't appreciate it at all. Later on, he told them...'Stay away from those ladies. They are delicate.' I wanted to say something but I didn't. Will power!! :) I will add this though. About 30 minutes later, his child jumped in and splashed him in the face. What do you think he did? He turned around and splashed them back, right in their face. I think he just wanted something to complain about. Oh well. What's done is done. I sat there that whole time thinking I should go apologize but I just didn't do it.
Well, there's my unglued moment. Embarrassed that I acted that way and glad that God forgives!! I hope that guy forgave me to, even though I didn't apologize.
Proverbs 15:1
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Monday, May 27, 2013
Tuesday, May 21, 2013
Military 3 Day Diet Results
Hi everyone!!!
Sorry this is a few days late. I did finish the diet on time and weigh myself the day after though. I was excited to see that my weight was 117.9 (if I remember correctly). I had lost 4.2 lbs!!!!! Was it worth being really hungry for 3 days, I think so! I don't know that I'll do it again but if I do, I'll be researching some substitutions. The cottage cheese was the hardest for me. I don't mind it in a gelatin but it was horrible by itself!! I wanted to gag after every bite. I mixed applesauce in with it so that helped a little. I may have lost more weight if I hadn't added 90 calories one day and 100 and something another day. I did workout one of those days though.
If you are used to not eating much throughout the day, this diet may be just fine for you. I eat 3 meals a day though typically and also snacks so I didn't like not having a snack. It was 3 meals and that was it!!!! Nothing in between. I will say though that dinner time I was always satisfied. One night I was even almost too full to eat the ice cream I was allowed afterwards. :)
Now that the 3 day diet is over, I'm doing a 30 day Ab and Squat challenge and my calorie limit each day is 1200. If I workout and burn some of those calories, I eat them again to make up the difference. I use MyFitnessPal app. It's a great one for those watching their weight. It keeps up with your calories for you and most items you can easily find the calorie count for on there. You just put in your goal weight and go from there.
Good luck to you if you decided to try this!!!! I'd love to hear your results!!!
Sorry this is a few days late. I did finish the diet on time and weigh myself the day after though. I was excited to see that my weight was 117.9 (if I remember correctly). I had lost 4.2 lbs!!!!! Was it worth being really hungry for 3 days, I think so! I don't know that I'll do it again but if I do, I'll be researching some substitutions. The cottage cheese was the hardest for me. I don't mind it in a gelatin but it was horrible by itself!! I wanted to gag after every bite. I mixed applesauce in with it so that helped a little. I may have lost more weight if I hadn't added 90 calories one day and 100 and something another day. I did workout one of those days though.
If you are used to not eating much throughout the day, this diet may be just fine for you. I eat 3 meals a day though typically and also snacks so I didn't like not having a snack. It was 3 meals and that was it!!!! Nothing in between. I will say though that dinner time I was always satisfied. One night I was even almost too full to eat the ice cream I was allowed afterwards. :)
Now that the 3 day diet is over, I'm doing a 30 day Ab and Squat challenge and my calorie limit each day is 1200. If I workout and burn some of those calories, I eat them again to make up the difference. I use MyFitnessPal app. It's a great one for those watching their weight. It keeps up with your calories for you and most items you can easily find the calorie count for on there. You just put in your goal weight and go from there.
Good luck to you if you decided to try this!!!! I'd love to hear your results!!!
Saturday, May 18, 2013
I love having a little girl !!! Ballet recital was today.
I know I've complained about my strong-willed child but she's my world. She is sweet, kind and generous. She's also independent and confident. I love those qualities about her. Today she had her 2nd ballet recital and she didn't seem nervous at all! I know she's my daughter and all but I think she's just absolutely gorgeous! Those blue eyes and her dimples!! I just love them! Right now she has a smile that is missing a tooth, has two adult teeth, one of those being crooked, and another loose tooth. :) I just love it though. It does make me sad that she's growing up so fast though and losing her baby teeth. She's now 5, as of last week and I can hardly believe it!! At the recital today she just kept looking at me and grinning. Nothing like seeing the joy on your child's face when they know you are watching them and they are making you proud. She did real well on her dance and the finale dance. She really enjoyed the finale more I think. I took a few pictures at the recital but I wanted some more personal shots so after we got home, I took some more. See below!!!
Finally !!!!! Military Diet Day 3 is over!!!!
Okay. Day 3 !!!
Meals:
Breakfast - 1 slice of cheddar cheese (I did block cheese), 1 small apple, 5 saltine crackers
Lunch - 1 slice of bread or toast and one boiled egg. How do they expect people to be satisfied with that?
Dinner - 1 cup of tuna (1 can), 1/2 banana, and 1 cup of vanilla ice cream (I was actually satisfied with this)
I noticed on MyFitnessPal that this day is only 801 calories. No wonder I was so hungry today! I did not cheat not ONCE today! I'm ready to see the results in the morning. I'll be posting a follow up.
I most likely will not do this diet again. I have a good metabolism typically, so I feel like I need a good bit more calories than this. I did not have much energy these past 3 days and I was almost constantly really hungry. Hopefully this was a good jumpstart to get me where I want to be though. If I can keep my calories at a reasonable amount, I can get to where I want to be. Darn sweet tooth is my problem. I'm really surprised at myself and how much will-power I've had these past few days, other than the 2 chocolate covered almonds yesterday. :) I think that added 90 calories to my day but I can't fuss too much about that. I assume I worked it off somehow.
Watch for my update tomorrow. I'm ready for morning to come so I can weigh myself and get the final result!!!
Meals:
Breakfast - 1 slice of cheddar cheese (I did block cheese), 1 small apple, 5 saltine crackers
Lunch - 1 slice of bread or toast and one boiled egg. How do they expect people to be satisfied with that?
Dinner - 1 cup of tuna (1 can), 1/2 banana, and 1 cup of vanilla ice cream (I was actually satisfied with this)
I noticed on MyFitnessPal that this day is only 801 calories. No wonder I was so hungry today! I did not cheat not ONCE today! I'm ready to see the results in the morning. I'll be posting a follow up.
I most likely will not do this diet again. I have a good metabolism typically, so I feel like I need a good bit more calories than this. I did not have much energy these past 3 days and I was almost constantly really hungry. Hopefully this was a good jumpstart to get me where I want to be though. If I can keep my calories at a reasonable amount, I can get to where I want to be. Darn sweet tooth is my problem. I'm really surprised at myself and how much will-power I've had these past few days, other than the 2 chocolate covered almonds yesterday. :) I think that added 90 calories to my day but I can't fuss too much about that. I assume I worked it off somehow.
Watch for my update tomorrow. I'm ready for morning to come so I can weigh myself and get the final result!!!
Military Diet Day 2
Day two:
Meals:
Breakfast - 1 piece of whole wheat toast, 1 egg (cooked how you like it) fried, 1/2 banana
Lunch - 1 cup of cottage cheese, 1 hard-boiled egg, and 5 saltine crackers
Dinner - 2 hot dogs (no bun), 1 cup broccoli, 1/2 cup carrots, 1/2 banana, 1/2 cup vanilla ice cream
Drinks - I had water only
Okay. Most of that wasn't half bad but it took me A WHILE to eat the cottage cheese. Gag me!! It was horrible. One cup doesn't seem like a lot but trust me, it is!! After about 2 bites, I decided I would take a spoonful of it out and replace it with apple sauce. That helped a little. I was so glad when that last bite was in my mouth and I could be done with it. Believe it or not, dinner actually filled me up.
It was a struggle today not to touch any other food item because I was really hungry!! I did sneak in 2 chocolate covered almonds though. :)
All of these items, I added into my log on MyFitnessPal app on my iPhone. I had a total of 991 calories (including the almonds). That's just insane how few calories that is. Geez!!! No wonder I was so hungry!! I told myself though that I'm going to finish the 3 days though. I'm ready for it to be over with so I can eat. :) I won't be pigging out but I'm going to eat more than what I have the past 2 days.
Meals:
Breakfast - 1 piece of whole wheat toast, 1 egg (cooked how you like it) fried, 1/2 banana
Lunch - 1 cup of cottage cheese, 1 hard-boiled egg, and 5 saltine crackers
Dinner - 2 hot dogs (no bun), 1 cup broccoli, 1/2 cup carrots, 1/2 banana, 1/2 cup vanilla ice cream
Drinks - I had water only
Okay. Most of that wasn't half bad but it took me A WHILE to eat the cottage cheese. Gag me!! It was horrible. One cup doesn't seem like a lot but trust me, it is!! After about 2 bites, I decided I would take a spoonful of it out and replace it with apple sauce. That helped a little. I was so glad when that last bite was in my mouth and I could be done with it. Believe it or not, dinner actually filled me up.
It was a struggle today not to touch any other food item because I was really hungry!! I did sneak in 2 chocolate covered almonds though. :)
All of these items, I added into my log on MyFitnessPal app on my iPhone. I had a total of 991 calories (including the almonds). That's just insane how few calories that is. Geez!!! No wonder I was so hungry!! I told myself though that I'm going to finish the 3 days though. I'm ready for it to be over with so I can eat. :) I won't be pigging out but I'm going to eat more than what I have the past 2 days.
Thursday, May 16, 2013
Military Diet Day 1
Ok. So I know a lot of you (that know me) will say "why are you on a diet? You are skinny." With that said, yes, I am skinny but not happy with the 5-ish lbs that I have gained in the past few months. How the heck did that happen? I knew I felt a little bigger. 5 lbs on someone my size is noticeable. I exercise regularly but I haven't been eating all that well. So, I decided to try the military diet. It's a 3 day diet. You can either do it once or you can do 3 days on, 4 days off until you have reached your goal weight. I'll be doing just the 3 days. I'll probably continue to cut calories too but not quite as much as the diet. I did Zumba this morning too so I burned some calories too. Probably should have eaten a little more to make up for that but I wanted to follow this exactly to see what my real results will be.
So, day 1. I weighed myself this morning on my Wii and it said 122. YIKES!! I haven't weighed that much in a while!! Not happy with that. Anywho...I don't know how accurate that is because it was the Wii and also day 3 of my cycle (AF). Not that you needed to know that but it may make a difference.
Today's food was
Breakfast: 1/2 grapefruit, 2 TBSP of Peanut Butter and 1 slice of whole wheat toast. It also says coffee or tea but I can't drink either one without sugar so I drank water.
Lunch: 1 can of Tuna (in water), 1 slice of bread or toast (whole wheat) and coffee (water for me)
Dinner: FINALLY some food!! I ate before 5:00 because I was starving!!!
3 oz of any type of meat (I had chicken breast), 1/2 banana, 1 small apple, 1 cup green beans and one cup of VANILLA Ice Cream! Whoohoo! Dessert!!
After day one, I'm dreading days 2 and 3. I have had a headache half of the day. Not sure if it's because of hunger or just coincidence. I'll let you know after tomorrow. Tomorrow's lunch looks really minimal. I did really well today and did not cheat though a few items looked really tasty!!!!!!
I did increase my water intake from a typical day so that's good. I actually drank almost the recommended daily amount.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
So, day 1. I weighed myself this morning on my Wii and it said 122. YIKES!! I haven't weighed that much in a while!! Not happy with that. Anywho...I don't know how accurate that is because it was the Wii and also day 3 of my cycle (AF). Not that you needed to know that but it may make a difference.
Today's food was
Breakfast: 1/2 grapefruit, 2 TBSP of Peanut Butter and 1 slice of whole wheat toast. It also says coffee or tea but I can't drink either one without sugar so I drank water.
Lunch: 1 can of Tuna (in water), 1 slice of bread or toast (whole wheat) and coffee (water for me)
Dinner: FINALLY some food!! I ate before 5:00 because I was starving!!!
3 oz of any type of meat (I had chicken breast), 1/2 banana, 1 small apple, 1 cup green beans and one cup of VANILLA Ice Cream! Whoohoo! Dessert!!
After day one, I'm dreading days 2 and 3. I have had a headache half of the day. Not sure if it's because of hunger or just coincidence. I'll let you know after tomorrow. Tomorrow's lunch looks really minimal. I did really well today and did not cheat though a few items looked really tasty!!!!!!
I did increase my water intake from a typical day so that's good. I actually drank almost the recommended daily amount.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
Sunday, May 5, 2013
The perfect Sunday
This is sort of a followup from my last post. It was a stressful week but this Sunday made it easier to forget about. At church we have been discussing grace. Giving grace to others, forgiving and forgetting. We've been studying Philemon in the Bible. I honestly don't remember ever studying this book before. Philemon is a very short book of the Bible. Long story short, Onesimus was a slave to Philemon. He stole from him and ran away. While gone, Onesimus heard the word preached by Paul and was saved. Paul pleaded to Philemon to forgive Onesimus because he changed his ways and was a follower of Christ now. He had never been of any use to Philemon but now he was very useful to him. Oddly enough, his name, Onesimus, means 'useful'. He ultimately fulfilled the meaning of his name. He also later became a pastor to Philemon.
How amazing is this story? Philemon could have chosen to judge Onesimus by his past. He stole from him and ran away. Instead, he chose to believe and trust that he had changed and had the Lord in his heart. We should all give this kind of grace. We tend to hold grudges and find it hard to forgive (and forget) things that people have done to us. I'm actually struggling right now with this. I'm pretty sure we could all use this advice and encouragement. We NEED to. We were given grace by God and we should do the same to others.
Almost right as we arrived at church, I went for a cup of coffee. There were two men standing there and I smiled. One said to the other "Look at that smile. That's joy from the Lord." That just made my day because it's so true. No matter how bad I felt that my week was, there were several moments where Kiya was so sweet and I know 100% that I was chosen to raise her and even though I feel like I'm doing something wrong and not succeeding, I know she's a sweet girl and I AM doing something right. I love seeing her sweet face and those precious dimples!! I'm blessed to have her. Our lives are blessed and I am so overjoyed to have found a church home that I look forward to going to.
As I was sitting in church today, I realized how far I've come in my relationship with Christ. Through motherhood, Bible studies, infertility, moving, etc....I have actually GROWN closer to Christ. I could choose to give up and have no hope or faith but I know that God has a plan for us and HIS timing is best. I went to the prayer team this morning to have someone pray for me for a few things and the man that I prayed with reminded me of this verse. Mark 11:24 Therefore I say unto you, All things whatsoever ye pray and ask for, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.
After prayer time was over, the pastor began his sermon and started with a husband and wife and said (calling them by name)...."As you were up here asking for prayer, God spoke to me and said that doors will open for you." I don't remember all of what he said but he went into detail a little more. Then he looked at me and called me by name and said that things are about to begin for me as well. Not his exact words but pretty much what he said. I have to have faith and KNOW that he's right. Right now, I'm in a storm (infertility) and I know that my rainbow is coming.
They also said something else in church that really spoke to me. It makes perfect sense. They said that when we aren't doing anything (whether that be spiritually or not having any struggles), the devil leaves us alone. The moment we begin something (trying to conceive, building a relationship with Christ), the devil appears and begins to mess with us. This is very true. He tries to attack us at our most vulnerable state. We can either have faith in Christ or fall with defeat and stay there. We have to be willing to keep our faith and trust in Christ. Look back to any time where you were really struggling with begging God for something you wanted so badly and you felt that it should happen right then. When it finally did happen, didn't you look back and think "OOOOHHH...I am so glad it happened this way and not when I originally asked for it"? Even now as we are still trying to conceive, I absolutely look back and say that I am so glad that I didn't get pregnant the first year we were trying, even year two. God knew what timing was right for us. Our faith in God gives us the strength to go on and the strength to face each day and each struggle.
Let me add one thing...this used to be me. This was also said in church today and it's SO true! If you are too cool or embarrassed to raise your hands in church to praise God, then you are not free. God's love comes with freedom. This song is the perfect one for this topic. I love this song!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wCEUvY2bCDA
How amazing is this story? Philemon could have chosen to judge Onesimus by his past. He stole from him and ran away. Instead, he chose to believe and trust that he had changed and had the Lord in his heart. We should all give this kind of grace. We tend to hold grudges and find it hard to forgive (and forget) things that people have done to us. I'm actually struggling right now with this. I'm pretty sure we could all use this advice and encouragement. We NEED to. We were given grace by God and we should do the same to others.
Almost right as we arrived at church, I went for a cup of coffee. There were two men standing there and I smiled. One said to the other "Look at that smile. That's joy from the Lord." That just made my day because it's so true. No matter how bad I felt that my week was, there were several moments where Kiya was so sweet and I know 100% that I was chosen to raise her and even though I feel like I'm doing something wrong and not succeeding, I know she's a sweet girl and I AM doing something right. I love seeing her sweet face and those precious dimples!! I'm blessed to have her. Our lives are blessed and I am so overjoyed to have found a church home that I look forward to going to.
As I was sitting in church today, I realized how far I've come in my relationship with Christ. Through motherhood, Bible studies, infertility, moving, etc....I have actually GROWN closer to Christ. I could choose to give up and have no hope or faith but I know that God has a plan for us and HIS timing is best. I went to the prayer team this morning to have someone pray for me for a few things and the man that I prayed with reminded me of this verse. Mark 11:24 Therefore I say unto you, All things whatsoever ye pray and ask for, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.
After prayer time was over, the pastor began his sermon and started with a husband and wife and said (calling them by name)...."As you were up here asking for prayer, God spoke to me and said that doors will open for you." I don't remember all of what he said but he went into detail a little more. Then he looked at me and called me by name and said that things are about to begin for me as well. Not his exact words but pretty much what he said. I have to have faith and KNOW that he's right. Right now, I'm in a storm (infertility) and I know that my rainbow is coming.
They also said something else in church that really spoke to me. It makes perfect sense. They said that when we aren't doing anything (whether that be spiritually or not having any struggles), the devil leaves us alone. The moment we begin something (trying to conceive, building a relationship with Christ), the devil appears and begins to mess with us. This is very true. He tries to attack us at our most vulnerable state. We can either have faith in Christ or fall with defeat and stay there. We have to be willing to keep our faith and trust in Christ. Look back to any time where you were really struggling with begging God for something you wanted so badly and you felt that it should happen right then. When it finally did happen, didn't you look back and think "OOOOHHH...I am so glad it happened this way and not when I originally asked for it"? Even now as we are still trying to conceive, I absolutely look back and say that I am so glad that I didn't get pregnant the first year we were trying, even year two. God knew what timing was right for us. Our faith in God gives us the strength to go on and the strength to face each day and each struggle.
Let me add one thing...this used to be me. This was also said in church today and it's SO true! If you are too cool or embarrassed to raise your hands in church to praise God, then you are not free. God's love comes with freedom. This song is the perfect one for this topic. I love this song!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wCEUvY2bCDA
Hebrews 10:22
let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water.
WOW what a week...followed by a wonderful Sunday
Last week was a stressful week. Not only did I realize that we need a house to move in to and only have 2 months to do it...but Kiya was a little stinker this week. I was ready for the weekend even though I don't work outside the home. Just not HAVING to get up and have somewhere to go, was a relief...not having the daily battle of trying to get Kiya ready for school in time too.
This whole week, my stubborn, hard-headed, strong-willed SWEETIE PIE :) just about drove me to insanity. I told my husband after the week was over that I can't handle another week like that one. Every day the day started off okay until it was time to get ready for school. Each morning was full of me repeating myself over and over and over. Whether it be me saying "it's time to get dressed" or "It's time to go", I bet I said each one 20 times before it was actually done. Needless to say, every day started with a time out in the corner. Each day also included the words from my daughter "I HATE YOU! I DON'T LIKE YOU!" She's almost 5. I swear some days she's a teenager in a 4 yr old's body. After the morning meltdowns, we made it to the school and she apologized for her behavior. Once I picked her up at noon, it started again. Just talking back, not obeying quickly, and me having to tell her a million times to do what I've requested. Some days I feel helpless, like I have tried everything possible to teach her that her behavior is unacceptable. She spends time in time out, we spank occasionally, take toys away, take tv away, we discuss why it's wrong and that it's not acceptable, etc. Nothing seems to get the point across to her. Yeah she realizes it after the fact that she shouldn't act that way but how do I get her to just not do it at all? I had enough by the end of the week. I promise she doesn't act that way because she doesn't get punished. She does. Anyone have any tips on how to knock some sense into her? Haha!!! I asked my husband yesterday if he thinks that she is acting out because he has been working almost non-stop. It's pretty much just she and I at home all the time.
Saturday was almost as bad, that little smart mouth of hers just kept on going. We were eating at a fast food restaurant and when it was time to go (after playing), she didn't want to put her shoes on. She said "YOU DO IT!". I refuse to do it when she doesn't ask me properly. She kept on and on so we went to the bathroom. I made her go barefoot just so ya know. We get to the bathroom and in the stall to have a talk and she's still getting her little attitude, saying she hates me and says she isn't going to look at me. Each time she refused to do what I asked, I popped her bottom. Then she looked at me and stuck her tongue out and made the little spitting noise. She can be so disrespectful. I really don't think my sanity could take much more at this point. She finally got her act together and we left the bathroom. She then had the nerve to cry because she couldn't have ice cream. I reminded her why did wasn't getting it, after she just acted that way. At least after that her mood changed and she was a perfect little angel. I guess she had to have her little meltdown and then she was fine. I'm sure I'm not alone in all of these struggles. Anyone have any advice for me?
Sunday was refreshing!! I had a wonderful time at church and the whole day went by without having to punish Kiya. It was a good day. :) Let's hope this week is better than the last one. At least we both survived it.
This whole week, my stubborn, hard-headed, strong-willed SWEETIE PIE :) just about drove me to insanity. I told my husband after the week was over that I can't handle another week like that one. Every day the day started off okay until it was time to get ready for school. Each morning was full of me repeating myself over and over and over. Whether it be me saying "it's time to get dressed" or "It's time to go", I bet I said each one 20 times before it was actually done. Needless to say, every day started with a time out in the corner. Each day also included the words from my daughter "I HATE YOU! I DON'T LIKE YOU!" She's almost 5. I swear some days she's a teenager in a 4 yr old's body. After the morning meltdowns, we made it to the school and she apologized for her behavior. Once I picked her up at noon, it started again. Just talking back, not obeying quickly, and me having to tell her a million times to do what I've requested. Some days I feel helpless, like I have tried everything possible to teach her that her behavior is unacceptable. She spends time in time out, we spank occasionally, take toys away, take tv away, we discuss why it's wrong and that it's not acceptable, etc. Nothing seems to get the point across to her. Yeah she realizes it after the fact that she shouldn't act that way but how do I get her to just not do it at all? I had enough by the end of the week. I promise she doesn't act that way because she doesn't get punished. She does. Anyone have any tips on how to knock some sense into her? Haha!!! I asked my husband yesterday if he thinks that she is acting out because he has been working almost non-stop. It's pretty much just she and I at home all the time.
Saturday was almost as bad, that little smart mouth of hers just kept on going. We were eating at a fast food restaurant and when it was time to go (after playing), she didn't want to put her shoes on. She said "YOU DO IT!". I refuse to do it when she doesn't ask me properly. She kept on and on so we went to the bathroom. I made her go barefoot just so ya know. We get to the bathroom and in the stall to have a talk and she's still getting her little attitude, saying she hates me and says she isn't going to look at me. Each time she refused to do what I asked, I popped her bottom. Then she looked at me and stuck her tongue out and made the little spitting noise. She can be so disrespectful. I really don't think my sanity could take much more at this point. She finally got her act together and we left the bathroom. She then had the nerve to cry because she couldn't have ice cream. I reminded her why did wasn't getting it, after she just acted that way. At least after that her mood changed and she was a perfect little angel. I guess she had to have her little meltdown and then she was fine. I'm sure I'm not alone in all of these struggles. Anyone have any advice for me?
Sunday was refreshing!! I had a wonderful time at church and the whole day went by without having to punish Kiya. It was a good day. :) Let's hope this week is better than the last one. At least we both survived it.
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